The Socially Awkward Black Girl in a Professional Career| FearlessKryss

Socially Awkward definition: an individual excessively afraid of social interaction due to some form of peer rejection or personal choice. Presenting a form or different forms of uncomfortability when around others.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=socially%20awkward

Are you socially awkward in your professional career?
Do you tend to get nervous in social gatherings?
Voice shaky? Difficult speaking?

YUP, that’s me!
Believe it or not, the girl behind this computer is very socially awkward. Especially in my professional career. Now, if you can relate… please feel very free to give as many interesting socially awkward stories you would like to share!

I honestly feel like the world is crashing down on me when this happens because there’s individuals whom worked for a long period of time so they’ve adjusted to the lingo, the jokes, and etc and 99.99%… more like 100% of the time I DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY’RE TALKING ABOUT and it drives me INSANEEEE! Or  when you’re in a group setting and you take the inititivate to bring up a funny joke and they don’t laugh or they don’t get the joke… it makes your axiety worst and you don’t want to speak EVER again! Has anybody had that happened to them???  There’s days where I feel the most confident, on my game, and speaking firm, but then there’s days where I feel so awkward and fearful of what their perception of me. Of course, be yourself. I am the type of individual whom is seeking for approval. I expect everything to run smoothly and I’m perfect at what I do 24/7 and when things doesn’t go my way, i panic. (Truth moment)

As for me, not only being a black girl and socially awkward… I work in a professional career where I’m constantly meeting regionals, directors, management, leaders, and etc. Nerve-wrecking, right? Extremely. My toughest thing I face is not knowing what to say and when to say it. For example, someone could literally tell me a joke from a book or tv show and I would literally look at them like…

I’m so confusedddd xD

That’s when I want to hide under a rock and never come back out.
 BUT DON’T FRET FOLKS!   EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAYYYY. RELAX, CALM IT DOWN. 
Even though I almost had a mega breakdown today 🙂

I am an introvert AND the only child so it’s very difficult to  jump out there in social gatherings. I will overthink everything I’m saying to that person or I think I said something completely stupid. This is just from my experience and I’m learning day by day to build confidence by speaking with other individuals. It does get fustrating at times, especially when you’re in a professional field and everything has to be firm and you have to know what you’re talking about.

A couple of things that is going to help you and I both are:
Confidence:
Greeting others by small-talk , meeting new people, improving your self-worth, and not worry about what people think.
NOW…It’s easier said than done. I’m going through it with you…You ae definitety not alone, others feel this way too and it’s okay! I’m learning to embrace my awkardness. Sometimes, you have to laugh at yourself (I do everyday)

What are WE going to work on this week?!
Say it with meeeeee….

BUILDING CONFIDENCE! ❤

We will start by small talking with others. Whether its in the elevator, bathroom, office, sideway, street, and etc. Are you ready?

 

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